Statistics have proven that just over half of the modern-day bridal couples go straight to sleep on their first night as man and wife.
Weddings can be exhausting, no matter how romantic and enjoyable and it is little wonder that most couples just don't have the stamina to engage in those first night escapades that so many imagine.
Still, if you're determined not to end your wedding day in this way, and would like to make this night passionate and fun, here are a few essential tips:
Start the pillow talk at the reception…
Begin your seduction during the wedding reception by whispering sweet nothings (or naughty thoughts) into her ear. This will remind both of you of your own private after-party and will help you to say no to that eighth glass of champagne (which could hamper your performance).
Tell your bride how stunning she looked and how happy you are to have her as a permanent part of your life. She should, and probably will, do the same. You may want to turn the heat up a bit as the evening wears on.
Take your time
You're in the bedroom and at last, everyone has left you two lovebirds alone. Take your time to rest a little. Have a full glass of water first, and then pour a glass of wine or a mug of coffee and sit together on the couch or bed. Have a light snack if you didn't have a chance to eat much at the reception and just chat about the wedding, laugh about embarrassing moments and work yourselves into a more relaxed mood.
It doesn't have to be perfect
Don't expect the hottest, longest-lasting sex session, rather, pamper each other with a massage, a long bath and revel in the intimacy of your first evening together as a married couple.
Lights, music, mood
Plan ahead for this night so that you are prepared with music to set the mood, wine you both like and so on. This is a once-in-a-lifetime event, so make the extra effort.
Live out that fantasy
If you know of a specific fantasy of hers that you have not yet fulfilled (such as seeing you in your old Navy uniform, for example), let this be the time. Alternatively, if you are particularly nervous about the evening’s conjugal nature, introduce an element of humour to break the ice. You could wear a feather thong or dress up like a schoolboy to get her smiling.
Get your game on
Read some books and check out some websites to get new ideas for this special night. While these can include different props and exciting positions, just remember to check in with your partner and see how comfortable they are.
Abstain to savour the moment
Try to build up anticipation by not having sex with one another for about a month before the time. This increases desire and anticipation.
If you had decided to remain a virgin until your wedding night, do not stress out about making it an unbelievable performance. It is wise to read some books on great sex and keep in mind what they say without trying to memorise them or perform textbook feats. You may want to ask some good and trusted friends for their advice.
The key is to relax and to make it about celebrating your love together.
Article courtesy of Celebration.co.za