It's not about your slick bedroom moves, or your well-chiseled chest. Great sex boils down to five simple essentials: communication, honesty, generosity, respect and a little sense of adventure. Without them, there's a little hope of having repeat encounters. So here are a few things to consider before you jump into the sack.
Keep the lines open
Communication is key and honesty is the best policy. Yeah, we've all heard it before. So why doesn't it always work? Well, someone forgot to add that tact is a rather important part of that equation. Particularly when it comes to something as raw and exposing as sex.
You might not like the way your partner administers a blow job, but you needn’t tell them they’re absolutely rotten. Rather, focus on the things you do like, praise them for their skill in these aspects, and then suggest different ways of approaching that blow job too.
Check on your partner
Which brings me to respect. It's not all about you. Try think about how your partner is feeling. If they're feeling fragile or vulnerable, adjust the tempo of your lovemaking to make them feel safe. Without being a nag, keep checking that they are still enjoying the situation.
Be more generous
Don’t just lie there. Get active and pamper your partner too. Try to think up ways to pleasure your partner that you know they’ll love, starting slowly – with a delicious bubble bath and massage, and heating things up a little later on. Being generous and patient always pays off in the end.
Encourage each other to try new positions, sex toys or moves – with a clear warning beforehand, of course! Having the space to explore each other sexually within a safe and respectful environment can bring you closer together and offer you some exhilarating experiences.
Be ready to make mistakes
Don't be too hard on yourself or your partner. None of us are perfect which, put in another way, means that each of us is bound to make a mistake or two at some point in our relationships.
Holding a grudge when it comes to something that did or didn't happen in the bedroom will only threaten the good relationship you've carefully built up. Instead, try to discuss your feelings with your partner when you’re both in a non-threatening situation (read: fully clothed and sitting at the breakfast table together). Remember, tactful communication is key.
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