Constantly worrying about your relationship could be killing your sex life.
If you're always worried that your partner is losing interest in you, easily threatened by their friends, or constantly questioning whether you've found the one, you might be suffering from relationship-related obsessive compulsive disorder (ROCD) and it could be the reason your libido is low, results of a recent study out of School of Psychology at the Interdisciplinary Center (IDC) Herzliya in Israel has revealed.
In particular, researcher Guy Doron found that symptoms of ROCD actually reduced overall relationship happiness which impacted on sexual satisfaction. The findings may be able to help those reporting sexual dysfunction in relationships.
While its normal to have occasional doubts about your relationship and partner, those suffering from ROCD tend to fixate on worries around whether they love their partner or conversely, whether their partner loves them. When these concerns start impacting your daily life, such as being unable to feel fully satisfied sexually, or not being able to concentrate properly at work, you should consider speaking to a health professional.
Based on the responses of an online questionnaire answered by 157 men and women, Brodon identified about one percent of participants who may be suffering from ROCD. He found that the more a subject suffered from the disorder, the more they reported being dissatisfied with their sex life.
Florida psychologist Anthony Ferretti told LiveScience that it makes sense that your ability to bond with your partner will be impaired if you are constantly questioning the quality of your relationship.
Brodon advises that those suffering ROCD may be better off receiving treatment before they become involved with someone.
Steven Brodsky of New York's OCD and Panic Center told Livescience that couples' therapy could exacerbate issues where an ROCD patient was involved. This is because couples' therapy specifically works on analysing what might have gone wrong in the relationship in order to get individuals to communicate effectively - a point which could actually worsen the compulsion to obsess over issues for the person suffering ROCD.
Rather, these people should receive individual treatment for OCD where the goal is to help them come to avoid fixating on aspects of their relationship, and learn to accept a certain amount of ambiguity.