It's not easy to feel sexy and ready to make love when you're worried about the orange peel on your thighs, or how droopy your boobs look, yet this is exactly the challenge that many women face. It turns out that they're not alone. Many men suffer from similar concerns about their body image. But is it possible to put these concerns aside to truly enjoy ourselves in the sack?
"You can hate yourself at pretty much any size, and you can love yourself at pretty much any size," explained Isabel Foxen Duke, emotional eating expert, in a Huffington Post online discussion on the subject.
Taking control of how we see ourselves is more important than trying to "fix" our appearance.
"It is an illusion that keeps us in a cycle of believing that we are in control of how we get to feel about ourselves through some external validation," says Duke, referring to women's concerns about their weight.
It's important to question and challenge the social constructs around what it is to be sexy, so that you can truly assess why you're feeling bad about your body.
"There are so many people out there that do believe that sexiness comes in a specific package," adds Duke.
She asks an important question: "Do you want to be a woman that is standing up for 'I can be loved and I can be sexy at any size' or do you want to be a victim to that mentality?"
Feeling sexy isn't necessarily to do with how you look, but instead depends on your state of mind.
"Really understand and own and express your sexiness in the body you currently have," says life coach Sarah Jenks.
She suggests that you use the saying "fake it 'til you make it" as a way to get yourself to feel sexy.
"When you do that you start to awaken that sexiness in you and you really start to feel it and believe it."