South Africa is advancing in more ways than one. A local survey showed that we place a lot of importance on our sex lives and would like more action in the bedroom.
Men's and Women's Health magazines recently ran an online survey in which 1457 men and shared their most intimate sexual desires. The results showed that both sexes place a lot of importance on our sex lives and would like more action in the bedroom, but only 37.8 percent of men say they are satisfied with their sex lives.
They shared that their most favourite way to orgasm was through penetrative sex (84.4 percent) followed by oral sex (38.8 percent).
Cowgirl (women on top) was rated as men's favourite sex position (51.6 percent), second came doggy style (49.9 percent) and missionary in third place with 38.6 percent.
But, it seems women could do better when it comes to giving good oral, as the men's biggest complaints were that their partners don't use enough tongue (31.2 percent), their teeth get in the way (30.4 percent) and they are not persistent enough (26.1 percent).
Other "mistakes" the group said women were making in bed other than the lack of communication were "just lying there" (39.9 percent), "poor technique" (23.3 percent) and "rushing foreplay" (22 percent).
While men felt their partners could improve in the bedroom, women felt they didn't have sex often enough with the majority (52.5 percent) wanting sex two or three times a week.
A whopping 72.4 percent of women are happy with their sex lives. Of these 41.8 percent said they were "fully fulfilled" (or more than fulfilled) with their sex lives. Of these, the happiest were those dating followed by those living with a partner. The least happy were single and married women.
And while there might be room for improvement when it comes to their own technique in the bedroom, women felt that the worst mistakes a partner could make in bed were "rushes foreplay" (51.8 percent), "trying too hard to please me" (29.5 percent) and "Not communicating enough" (27.6 percent). The results were the same in 2011. These results were consistent for women whether they were single, dating, married or other.
Women's Health editor, Kate Wilson, commented in her editor’s letter of the sex issue,"WH readers are not one of the coy sectors of the reading public, they see sex for what it is – a healthy part of life."
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